A man’s best friend is his wife! – Roger’s Story

I came across your website whilst googling for information to help me understand just what my wife would be going through both operatively and post-operatively. I must say I have found it extremely informative and helpful, I would definitely urge anyone who needs good advice and information to visit and sign up for the weekly hints and tips.

From my point of view, as a mere male, I would advise all men whose wife / partner is having to contemplate a hysterectomy for whatever reason to do a few things.

Firstly, take the trouble to understand the female anatomy, this is most important. Secondly to go with their partner to all appointments from the initial consultation onwards. Do go to the hospital with her to give support and re-assurance on the day of the operation, go with her to the entrance to the operating theatre and then wait so that you can be there when she awakes and returns to the ward afterwards. Read all of the information that the hospital will supply and definitely visit The Hysterectomy Association website where even more advice can be found.

At all times be prepared to talk to your partner about how she feels, what exactly she is having done and how you can help, but most importantly always re-assure her that it will in no way change the way you feel about her. My wife is still a woman and still the woman I love and will always remain so, and I am glad to say that she knows this because I have told her so. I have been fortunate in having the time to spend making sure that life at home has been restful for her and have seen the benefits of ensuring that she has not done anything that she was advised not to do. I accompany her on a short walk each day and take each day as it comes.

I appreciate that this may seem strange coming as it does from a man, but I think that there ought to be booklets aimed at us so that we can help our partners by being armed with the correct and sensible knowledge from the start, and that they should be given out by the hospital staff at the first consultation.

Very many thanks for the support your site has enabled me to give to my very precious wife.

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